Tuesday, January 19, 2010

RIOT Forum: Forgiveness

RIOT Forum: Forgiveness:

Comments:
• My Family is unforgiving.
• I can forgive, or I try, but forgetting can be dangerous.
• Forgiveness is harder to forgive than it is to stay mad.
• I have a hard time forgiving.
• Jesus forgave our sins.
• Forgiveness is my greatest fear.
• I believe forgiveness is a big part of faith.
• It’s hard to forgive.
• It’s easier for me to forgive someone, than to accept forgiveness.
• Sometimes it’s hard to be forgiven and let it go (Like Jim’s Sermon).


Questions:
• Are there ever times where you shouldn’t forgive?
o I can’t really think of a situation where it would be inappropriate to forgive. There are situations when it is harder than it is other times. But since forgiveness comes from a place of understanding how much we are forgiven and the sacrifice Jesus made to forgive us from our sins, there could be no greater forgiveness, so we should forgive radically as well.
• How do I get over my biggest fear, forgiveness?
o I think exploring what forgiveness really is, why we do it, and how much we are forgiven will help. What would happen if Jesus was afraid of forgiving us? After all, we burn him over and over and over. And his forgiveness was much more radical than ours can ever be.
• Why did Jesus have to pay in blood?
-There’s no greater punishment for sin than death. Since sin is a complete rebellion against ourselves, God, and others…it deserves the greatest punishment. After all, each act of sin is a huge spit wad in the face of Jesus. The Jew’s had a sacrificial system with animals to atone (pay for) their sins…which is why Jesus is called the lamb…cause a pure lamb was often thought of as the best form of sacrifice. The best sacrifice is only thing worth to remove the sin of the entire world since it’s inception until the time Jesus returns. Think about it…do you think jail time for Jesus would have been a sufficient punishment to atone for the sin of all of humanity?
• When should you forgive someone?
o When has God forgiven you? I know that seems extreme, but if we understand how much we are forgiven, why wouldn’t give just as freely?
• How many times does God forgive?
o As many times as we ask. However, the fact that God is forgiving is not a free pass to sin. The person that we don’t want to forgive is that person…the person we are reluctant to forgive because they continually hurt us. Why would we want to be that person? God is gracious to forgive even when we are not…Paul says in Romans 6:1-4, “What shall we say then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We died to sin, how can we live in it any longer? Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.”
• Do you really have to forgive AND forget?
o We will most likely never forget a sin committed against us. But we must examine what real forgiveness is. There is a difference between forgetting and keeping no record of wrongs. If you prefer the phase, “you should forgive and keep no record of wrongs” then think of it that way. Say someone hurts you and you forgive them. Later when things are not going so well you say, well two months ago you did this….then you have not forgiven them. If you have forgiven …let it go and do not hold it against that person any longer.
• How can you forgive someone who has done something unforgivable?
o It seems like you’ve answered your own question. You basically said that there are things that should not be forgiven. Once again, this comes back to understanding the sins for which you’ve been forgiven. If you are unwilling to forgive it makes me think that you don’t see yourself as needing forgiveness. This person is much worse than you ever have been or will be and therefore don’t deserve forgiveness. The definition of Grace is a gift that we do not deserve and mercy is the taking away of a consequence we do deserve. God’s gave mercy when he chose not to hang us on the cross. His grace was given through Jesus when he was put in our place…a gift we do not deserve.
• When you forgive someone, is it always better to tell them or can you forgive them in your heart? Say it was something that happened years
ago.
-I would say it depends on your relationship with that person. Often times, those who have hurt us have since moved on. Forgiveness is just as much for us as it is for them. We need to be free of that burden. Forgiving them in your heart is great. Now if its someone close to you and the relationship is suffering as a result…speaking the forgiveness to them could do much for your relationship.
• Does God really forgive all?
o Yep!
o 1 John 1:9: If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness
• How do you know if someone has fully forgiven you for something you did?
o Not sure that you can… if someone else is unwilling to forgive…know that if you earnestly seek forgiveness…your father has already forgiven you. That is the most important thing.
• Why is it so hard to forgive?
o Because our pride is at stake. If you remember the lifeboat game we played last semester…we said that when someone wrongs us we feel like they are telling us we don’t matter or that we’re insignificant. So having the ability to forgive or not forgive is a power we like to have over them. Really, it’s a testament to insecurity…we are just as much a slave to the lack of forgiveness as the one we are withholding it from…if not more.
• How does God forgive so easily?
o Because he knows the image of God that each person is created with…its worth it to him to restore that relationship…which is what forgiveness is all about. I wouldn’t say it was easy though. I mean, he had to give up his son for it. A son who has done absolutely no wrong. Can you imagine a perfect person…say that perfect person happened to be your child. Now imagine sacrificing them so that you could have a better relationship with some man named will who lives in Japan. Yeah, not easy…but good…because God is good, he gave this incredible gift.
• How do you forgive someone after they have done something bad?
o Refer to earlier question.
• Is there over a ever a time when not to forgive someone?
o Refer to earlier question
• Why should we forgive someone who always comes back and hurts you?
o God can relate: refer to eelier question
• Should you forgive someone if they continuously hurt you?
o God can relate: refer to earlier question.
• What is it that we the youth can do in order to be able to show forgiveness towards other people or to God?
o Understand the ferocity with which you’ve been forgiven…accept God’s gift and let that change the way you respond to people in this life, in this broken world.
• Why is forgiveness not easy?
o Pride: We have power over that person to withhold forgiveness: Refer to earlier question.

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Great Leadership-Great Responsibility:1/17/2010

Activity: Lost at Sea (separate sheet)
• How were decisions made?
• Who influenced the decisions?
• How?
• How could better decisions have been made?
• Did people listen to each other? If not, why?
• How was conflict managed?
• What kind of behavior helped or hindered the group?
• How did people feel about the decisions?

Lesson:

-Leadership often just kind of happens. Some people are absolutely born to lead…they are wired that way and they often just naturally take control.
-You can see that the first question deals with who takes control.
-The questions in the middle dealt with the quality of the leadership.
-The last question deals with how other people feel about that.

-This is the three step process we’ll talk about throughout the course of our time together tonight.

What is a Leader: Who Leads?
-Basically a leader is anyone who is followed by another.
-When we think of leaders we think of powerful, influential people who take control over large portions of people and intricate situations.

Who are some of the leaders you are thinking of?
-The president, pastors, CEOs, Pro athletes, Principals, Doctors, Lawyers, Celebs.
-No doubt these people are leaders with large responsibilities.

-These are definitely people we put our trust in. The people we follow are often those we look up to and trust.
-I trust doctors…maybe too much. Doctor man, what you say is why I believe
cause I have no idea what is inside me or what its doing there…if it isn’t
working…I’m depending on you to fix it!
-Lawyers…hopefully I won’t need one…but if I did…yeah
-The President: I don’t even watch the news…I’m glad someone cares…
ya know.

-Its darn near impossible not to betray someone’s trust when there are so many people looking to you for guidance, assistance, or in my case with doctors…to just completely run the show.
-Sometimes, most times, there is a lot at stake emotionally, physically, or even spiritually.
Quick View: Get a group of three together and share your experience with Leaders. When was a time when your trust was betrayed? What did that leader do? What did you do?

-Return to the large group and share one thing from your small group.

-The contrast is interesting to me. You notice that I follow pretty blindly in some situations. Like the doctor situation…he could that in order to get over a cold I needed to take up smoking and I would be like…”whatever you say doc”.

-That simple fact may be why some people want to lead. It’s a means by which they can push their own agenda. These are the leaders that most often cause us pain…and hurt many people in the process of their leadership.

Who are some of these leaders in our world?
-Sadam Hussein, Hitler, Bank folks and business people who launder money.

-These people don’t understand that power and leadership equals responsibility.

Video Clip: X Men:
In the beginning we have two men with great power…they are both great leaders. Somewhere along the lines, their philosophies of leadership and power take separate turns. One man believes that mutants have a responsibility to help people and to control their power. While the other believes that mutants should have full usage of their powers and take over society as a superior race. This scene depicts a climax of the conflict when one of the most powerful mutants either of them has ever seen is trying to decide which philosophy of leadership and power to buy into.

Chapter 10:

-X men, Last Stand. With great power comes great responsibility.
-Here we have a classic Angel on one shoulder, devil on the other shoulder situation.
-The Angel is attempting to help gene understand her power and how she can best use it for others and for herself.
-The devil wants to convince her that she should use the power for herself.

-Gene Says, “I have no home”. Hard to understand our power or leadership without the context of where our home is or who our home is with.

-Devil Says, “He wants to control you” about God.

-God says, “I want to help you”.

-Gene Says, “What’s wrong with me?”

-Devil Says, “Nothing.”

-God Says, “ Look at me!”

-Jesus is our example of leadership and what to do with our power/Leadership. When we take our eyes of off him, we not only forget where our home is but we also forget that being a servant is the purpose of our being.


Scripture: Matthew 20:20-28

V22: You don’t know what you’re asking.
-The most prominent Biblical examples of leaders are stories about people who would just assume not fulfill the requests of God.
-Moses, Jonah, Balaam, Jeremiah
-They knew what God was asking and what such leadership would
entail.
-Moses-Had to put up with a bunch of whiners and enter into
dangerous or unknown situations so the people wouldn’t have to.
-People-give us this…without fully understanding what was
happening.
-Jonah wanted to fulfill his own agenda and let everyone die…not
God’s agenda.
-Jeremiah was the weeping prophet…everyone thought he was crazy.
-“Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?”
-Jesus is asking? So you want power? You want to be a leader? Well do you want the kind of leadership that I have? Do you want to make the sacrifices that I make?
-If that’s what you want…that’s what you’ll get.
V25: “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them and their high officials exercise authority over them.”
-Jesus is saying, you know what kind of leaders those who don’t know God
have. You know their idea’s of leadership and power. They use it for
personal gain.
V26: Not so with you…
-This isn’t the way it works in my kingdom.
-If you want to be a leader…you have to follow my example.
-If you want to be great, be a servant.
-If you want to be first, be a slave.
V28: Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.
-Because I am the standard of leadership…and no one has ever been more of
a servant than me.

So if you want to be a great leader…you must be a great follower of the best leader ever and give of yourself.
-I’ve shared a couple characteristics of a great leader so far…we’re going to talk about that a little bit more in your small groups.

Small Group: (bring back to large group top three characteristics and why)

-What are the characteristics’ of a great leader?
-great follower, give of self, humility, good listener, not quick to assume
or make assessment of others, not judgmental, inclusive, gives up
immediate needs to fulfill the needs of another, etc.

-Why are these characteristics important?

-Who is someone you think embodies great leadership?

-Why would you follow them?

-In what ways are you a leader?
-I’m a big bro/sis, I’m a high school athlete with younger kids looking up to
me, I’m the only Christian in my family, people at school know I’m a Christian
look to me for what a Christian is, I stick up for outcasts at school, etc.

-What Characteristics of a leader do you see in someone in the group? What are they? Encourage that person right now by telling them what you see in them.

Large Group: What were your top three characteristics of a leader and why? Alternate groups sharing one at a time.

-The last couple questions focused on your ability to lead as well as the qualities you see in others around you.

-I believe that we are all called to lead.

-Earlier we said that a leader is anyone that people follow. The truth is, that every one of us has at least one follower. It may be friends at school or a sibling. But we all have someone who follows us. People are always watching.

-This is no mistake…God made you someone with influence…we are a relational people…in close proximity, and so a people with responsibility. We are also a curious people, we watch others so that we know what is right and how we should act. Which is one reason why Paul says in Colossians 3:17: “Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

-This is not easy: Look at Celebrities. They have many people watching them…and they don’t understand the leadership and power they have…and they use it for themselves instead of for the gain of others.

-We all have the opportunity to take the power we have and use it for our own good. Or we can lay down what we have and become a servant. Philippians 2:2-4 is a great passage about leadership. It basically describes Jesus’ leadership. “The make my joy complete by being like minded, having the same love, being one in Spirit and in purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

-No Leader But God is perfect. Earlier we talked about leaders that have hurt us, betrayed our trust. I promise leaders will screw up…and I promise that you as a leader will mess up a time or two…

-One of the Characteristics of a good leader we mentioned is humility. Good leaders will admit when they’re wrong, ask for forgiveness, and do the best they can to ensure it doesn’t happen again.

-One of the questions in the forum was what type of leadership are you looking for in us, the youth? This is the type of leader I’m looking for. Someone who wants to learn from the best leader ever…will build each other up, admit when they’re wrong, and do everything they can to think of others before they think of themselves.

-The first step in this is to acknowledge that you are a leader, and that you have much to learn. Gary gave everyone a note card with Matthew 20:26-27. On the back of that card I want you to write one characteristic of a great leader you do not yet have, or you want to work on. Be in prayer this week over this verse and over that characteristic. Maybe even ask a friend to pray for you as well.

Closing Blessing:

The Lord Bless you and keep you. The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace. This to him who is able to keep you from falling to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy. To the only God our Savior be glory, majesty, power, and authority, through Jesus Christ our Lord before all ages, now and forevermore. Amen

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

2010....is.......HERE!!!!

Hey Everyone,

Welcome to the 10’s…i like em. I’ve been working on the schedule for the entire 10 and I have to say that I’m pretty excited about this year! I won’t burden you with knowledge of the whole year just yet…but i’ll share with you the general gist on Sunday…I think you’ll like it too!

Let’s not get too terribly far ahead of ourselves…let’s start by talking about this week….yeah that’s a good idea.

Today…the first Wednesday in 2010 (6th): GIRLS Real Group is meeting at Berri Blends at 6pm. Guys will start up NEXT WEEK.

Sunday (10th): REBELution @ Hubenak Elementary…behind the Wal Mart and near J man’s house. The address is below. Be there from 6-730.

-Hubenak is 11344 Rancho Bella Parkway, Richmond, TX 77406

LOOKIN AHEAD: 30th our First SNL, Feb 12th: Junior High Exclusive, Feb 27th: First Hands of Christ…Homeless Shelter…..

Oh yeah, I can only imagine the excitement bubbling up as you read this email…no need to contain it! See you Soon!

Adam

Friday, December 4, 2009

We made it everyone!

UPRISING UPDATE 4:24 pm

Hey Guys!

Great news, just got off the phone with the people in Columbus and the sun is shining there! Actually they didn't see any precipitation all day! It looks like at any moment the sun will pop out here as well! The hour by hour forecast is clear there and now it is only 10% precipitation and 36% degrees for our departure time! Pack warmly, bring a sleeping bag and a lunch...we'll have coolers and ice to keep things cold!

WE ARE GOING TO LEAVE AT THE ORIGINALLY SCHEDULED TIME. If you need to have your liability release form notarized, please arrive at 7pm so that Kendra or Holly can notarize it. If not, please arrive no later than 715pm so that we can load up, pray, and be on our way by 730pm at the latest.

I will post another message here when we have arrived at Pine Cove Outback so that you will know we made it safely. I anticipate our arrival at 9pm. Thanks! and see you soon!

Adam

UPRISING 2009 Updates

Hey Parents,

I have been closely monitoring the weather both here and in Columbus (where we are heading). We will not cancel Uprising but it is a possibility that we will hold off our departure till 8am tomorrow morning. Please refer to this blog for futher updates as a decision will be rendered by 5pm.

-The current forecast is for 30% chance of precipitation in Katy at 7pm tonight, and 10% at 8pm. So the worst of the storm is now. I've been on the phone a few times with our contact in Columbus and she said they haven't seen any precipitation at all and the forecast is 0% precipitation by 5pm in Columbus. So please let this blog be your primary information station regarding future updates...as it is difficult to communicate with everyone via phone. Thanks!

Adam